What is "Across Spilled"?

"Across Spilled" is the section in the app that shows you patterns happening across other women using Spilled, anonymously.

When patterns fire on connections (like high cancellation rate or breadcrumbing), the app records an anonymous signal: which pattern fired, what zone the score was in, how old the connection is. No names, no entry text, no identifying information.

Once enough signals have been collected globally, the "Across Spilled" section shows you things like which patterns are most commonly tracked, what percentage of connections in a particular zone show certain patterns, and so on.

Why this exists: dating in 2026 is isolating. Every connection feels singular. Spilled's community data lets you see that the patterns you are watching are happening to other women too. It is the "you are not alone" hook.

The community section only appears once there is enough data to draw real patterns from. Thin numbers stay hidden. The app never shows you raw user counts.

You can opt out of contributing to community insights at any time in the Account tab. With anonymous insights turned off, your patterns stay completely on your phone and contribute nothing to the community layer.