A private dating journal
A dating journal app made for modern dating
Track what actually happens. See the patterns. Trust what you see.
7-day free trial on Pro. iOS only for now.
Most journal apps are general purpose. They are great for gratitude lists and morning pages. They are not great for tracking the gray-zone moments of modern dating: the cancelled plans, the breadcrumb texts, the hot and cold cycles, the slow fade.
What makes Spilled different
Spilled is built specifically for dating. Every feature exists to help you see what is actually happening with the person you are seeing.
Each entry gets tagged with what happened (cancellation, effort, no response, breadcrumbing, jealousy, future talk, intense oversharing, and more). The tags feed a consistency score that updates with every entry. Pattern flags fire automatically when your data shows a repeated behavior.
It is not a generic journal where you have to figure out the patterns yourself. It is a journal that does the pattern-watching for you.
What it tracks
Eleven pattern detectors trained on the kinds of things women keep wondering about. High cancellation rate. Hot and cold cycles. Breadcrumbing. Broken promises. Love bomb then disappear. Controlling behavior. Financial concerns. Disrespect. Frequent silence. Floodlighting. And one good one: consistent effort.
Each pattern fires automatically once your entries cross a threshold for it. You see the evidence behind each flag (like "7 of 11 plans cancelled, 64%") so nothing is a mystery.
Privacy is the point
Your journal entries live on your phone. We never read what you write. When you tap the Read button on an entry, the text is sent to a secure language service to identify tags, then immediately discarded. We keep no record of it.
The people you log about cannot find, search, or access anything in Spilled. Even if they download the app, your data is invisible to them.
Free and Pro
Free includes unlimited connections, unlimited entries, manual tag picking, the consistency score, basic pattern flags, and time window filters. That is enough to use the app meaningfully without ever paying.
Pro adds smart tagging (Spilled reads your entry and tags it for you), live personalized reads on every pattern that fires, the score trend chart, multi-connection comparison, full timeline filters, deep community stats, designed shareable exports, and smart check-in reminders. Pro Monthly is $9.99/month. Pro Yearly is $49.99/year with a 7-day free trial.
Start your private journal.
7-day free trial on Pro. Cancel anytime.
Questions, answered
Is Spilled free?
Yes. The core experience (unlimited connections and entries, score, basic patterns) is free forever. Pro adds smart tagging, personalized reads, and the deeper features.
Is it just for women?
Spilled is built primarily for women dating men, since that is who the pattern detection was tuned for. Anyone can use it, and we are working on broader pronoun and gender support for a future update.
Does it work on Android?
Not yet. Spilled is iOS only for now. Android is on the roadmap.
How long does it take to see patterns?
You see your consistency score from your first entry. Pattern flags usually start firing once you have three or more entries that show a repeated behavior, which most people hit within their first few weeks of logging.