A private dating journal
Track the red flags you keep seeing on Hinge
A private journal for the patterns you cannot unsee.
7-day free trial on Pro. iOS only for now.
Hinge does a great job getting you in the door. It does not help you spot the guy who cancels every other plan, the one who only texts at midnight, or the one who love bombs for two weeks then pulls back. Those are not in the bio. Those are in what happens after the match.
The red flags Spilled tracks
High cancellation rate. Broken promises. Hot and cold cycles. Love bombing followed by withdrawal. Breadcrumbing. Controlling comments about what you do, who you see, what you wear. Financial weirdness. Disrespectful tone. Frequent silence. Floodlighting (intense oversharing too early).
Spilled detects eleven patterns automatically, based on what you log. You do not have to know what a pattern is called for it to fire. You just write what happened. The math does the recognizing.
Why patterns matter more than incidents
A single cancellation is not a red flag. Three cancellations in two weeks is. A single bad night is not a red flag. A pattern of going cold every time you try to define the relationship is.
Spilled is built around this idea. Single entries get logged but rarely fire flags. Patterns over multiple entries are what light up the dashboard. That is the difference between paranoia and pattern recognition.
What you do with the data
Spilled never tells you to leave. It just shows you what you have been seeing. Pro users can tap any flag for a personalized written read of what their specific data is showing. The decisions stay yours.
For some users, seeing a red flag fire is what they needed to make a call. For others, it confirms what their gut already knew. Either way, you stop guessing and start trusting your own evidence.
See the red flags clearly.
7-day free trial on Pro. Cancel anytime.
Questions, answered
How many entries before red flags show up?
Most flags fire after three or more entries that show a repeated behavior. Some patterns need more data to trust (love bombing needs a trend, for example). Most people see their first flags within three to four weeks.
Does Spilled tell me to break up?
No. Spilled is a tracking tool, not a relationship counselor. It surfaces patterns and gives you the language for what is happening. What you do next is yours.
Can I track guys from other apps too?
Yes. Spilled works the same regardless of where you met someone, including Bumble, Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, or in person.