A private dating journal
For the Tinder situationship that will not name itself
A private journal that reads what your data has been showing.
7-day free trial on Pro. iOS only for now.
You matched on Tinder. It moved fast. You stopped seeing other people, but you never actually had the conversation about being exclusive. He has not asked. You have not asked. It has been three months. You are not single, you are not in a relationship, and you are tired of pretending you are okay with it.
Why Tinder situationships are common
Tinder is the highest-volume dating app, and volume creates situationship-friendly conditions. There is always another option a swipe away, which makes some people hesitant to define what they have. The result is a lot of long-running connections that never get a label.
Some Tinder situationships are mutual and working. Many are one person hoping for more and the other keeping it loose. The data tells you which.
How Spilled reads it
You log what actually happens. Plans made, plans kept, plans cancelled. Touches. Conversations about the future. Conversations that almost happened. Words like exclusive, girlfriend, partner if they ever come up.
Spilled looks at the pattern. A score in the yellow zone with a lot of mixed signals tags is the textbook situationship signature. A score that is green but never hits the milestones (no meeting friends, no future talk, no mention of exclusivity) is another version of it.
What the read can tell you
Pro users can tap any pattern for a written read on what the data shows. The read does not tell you what to do. It tells you what the situation actually is, in plain language.
From there, the decision is yours. Some users have the conversation they have been avoiding. Some let it run a few more weeks and re-check the data. Some end it. The point is to make the decision with eyes open instead of in a fog.
Get out of the fog.
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Questions, answered
How do I know if this is a real relationship or a situationship?
Real relationships hit milestones. You meet each other's people. You talk about the future. Plans get made more than a week out. Situationships avoid all of those. Spilled tracks milestones as tags so you can see which side of the line you are actually on.
Can Spilled tell me if he is seeing other people?
Not directly. Spilled only knows what you log. But certain patterns (frequent silence, breadcrumbing, hot and cold cycles) often correlate with being one of several connections, especially when they cluster together.
What if I do not want a relationship either?
Then a situationship might be exactly what you want. Spilled still helps because it confirms whether what you have is actually working for you, instead of running on autopilot.