What patterns does Spilled detect?

Spilled looks for several patterns across your entries. Each one fires when the data shows a clear behavioral signal:

High cancellation rate: he cancels plans more often than he keeps them.

Hot and cold cycles: his behavior swings between attentive and distant in repeated cycles.

Breadcrumbing: lots of contact (texts, messages, social attention) but few real plans or in-person time.

Broken promises: he says things will happen (calls, dates, gestures) and then they do not.

Love bomb then disappear: intense early effort followed by a sudden withdrawal.

Controlling behavior: he comments on or tries to limit your choices in ways that are not his to make.

Financial concerns: money is showing up in ways worth paying attention to.

Disrespectful behavior: how he speaks to you is not matching what you deserve.

Frequent silence: he goes quiet often enough that it is a pattern, not an exception.

Floodlighting: he shares deeply personal trauma very early in the connection, often as a way to fast-track intimacy before trust has been built.

Consistent effort: steady positive entries over time, the only "good" pattern flag.

Each pattern fires automatically once your entries cross a threshold for it. You can see the evidence behind each flag (like "7 of 11 plans cancelled, 64%") so nothing is a mystery.

If you are Pro, tap any flag to get a personalized read on what that pattern means for your specific situation.